I began my journey of forgiveness at an early age. I’ve learned that forgiveness is not easy; in fact, it’s the most elusive and most misunderstood process that I’ve ever known. The pain that had a hold of my heart led me to understand the importance of forgiveness and I had no choice but to learn how. Like my journey of grief – my faith in God keeps me on the right path. At the times when I choose not to follow my faith or my belief that God is in control – that is when I feel lost and alone with no map and no guide to get me through. In 2011, I wrote about Forgiveness and my opinion on this personally has evolved over the last seven years. A link below to that original post is below for you to review as it was related to a book I was blogging through at the time by Jerry Sittser.
This post is my second installment from my series Grief and Essential Oils. The topic for today’s post is forgiveness. I’ve written about this topic many times here on this blog because it is an important component to healing.
Shortly after Brittany’s death I was struggling with how I felt about the medical professionals who were involved with Brittany’s care. I was angry at them because I felt they gave up on her. Not once did I, her mother, ever give up on her. But they didn’t seem to care or so it appeared by their lack of persistence on finding out what was wrong. To me it just seemed as though they took the short way out and covered it all up with medication. I knew it wasn’t the right decision. And I felt powerless to fight it.
Forgiveness™ can be used for emotional support and energy balance.This essential oil blend contains an aroma that supports the ability to forgive yourself and others while letting go of negative emotions, an important part of personal growth and is EarthKosher certified.
I like to apply Forgiveness™ especially during times when I’m feeling sad or during times of reflection and meditation about how I’m feeling. Meditation is a big component in the grief journey. I use meditation prior to writing in my journal. It allows me to collect my thoughts before I write.
When you’re feeling down or need to refocus your thoughts bringing essential oils like Forgiveness™into your daily or weekly routine can be an effective way to enhance your day. Creating a sense of balance can be vital to bringing the type of atmosphere that can be helpful to you as you navigate all the emotions that come from experiencing grief.
How to use Forgiveness™:
Topical: Apply 2-4 drops directly to desired area. Dilution not required, except for the most sensitive skin. Use as needed.
Aromatic: Diffuse up to 1 hour 3 times daily.
Caution: Keep out of reach of children. For external use only. Keep away from eyes and mucous membranes. If you are pregnant, nursing, taking medication, or have a medical condition, consult a health professional prior to use. Avoid direct sunlight or UV rays for up to 12 hours after applying product.
Forgiveness is a life long journey, and just as grief washes over you at times so does the process of forgiveness. We may have to forgive again and again when those special occasions arrive like when I go to a wedding of a couple Brit’s age or when some of Brittany’s friends begin to have families of their own. I must relive that again. That moment of anger shows up and I must choose to forgive all over again. Because you see my loss is eternal there will always reminders of the magnitude of my loss.
Forgiveness is hard, but a necessary for your own healing and growth. Forgiveness also doesn’t mean you have forgotten what happened to your loved one. I will never forget what happened to my daughter on October 13, 2006. The flashbacks still occur. Thankfully the nightmares don’t happen as often now. The pain in my heart is always there. But in forgiving those who were involved, I have been able to move forward and replace those bad memories with good ones of my daughter. This story, my story is an on-going process and our faith in God is how the story gets re-written.
God changes everything. Faith gives hope in the midst of grief.
until next time,