Stop Trying to Figure It Out

Today I was having a conversation with a good friend and out of that conversation came the topic of this blog – The need we have to always figure out the “Why” of life. I’m sure I’ve written about this topic before, but I believe we can always use a healthy dose of remembering a very important life lesson. The reason we are here and why it is important to stop figuring out why you are here and just do it.

A few years ago I found myself questioning why I was here. Here in my hometown, here at this time in my life or even here on earth. One day I must have been feeling very misplaced and I mentioned to someone that I wasn’t sure it had been a good idea to move back to my hometown. And she said to me “You are here because you are suppose to be here, to be my friend, to be my co-worker – it is where God wants you now”. That statement struck me so profoundly because since Brittany’s death, or really my whole life, always trying to figure things out. Questioning the “why” in my life. And in the process missing the point. It’s not important to know why, to know God’s plan, it’s more important to know that there is a plan and just have faith.

I know that can be hard for some people. It’s very hard for me. I’ve always been the person in charge, the go to person. So it can be a difficult transition in life to just believe that for whatever reason we are placed here on earth that we are to live it out in full faith. Faith that is unseen and can only be revealed in how you live your life. Knowing that God’s plan is so much bigger than anything we can possibly dream up on our own.

The other side to this is that when my friend said what she did, it also struck me that people come in and out of your life for many reasons.  Sometimes it’s not always for good reason, but we hopefully learn from the experience and keep moving forward.

I learned from my daughter’s death who my real friends were. Some were not who I thought they were and other friends came into my life that I never imagined I would be friends with. Those people are the ones who stood by me at a time in my life that they could have easily walked away. As some did.  But some didn’t. They are still my friends today. Yet distance proves to be a modifier in this equation because we don’t see each other as often. But I know that at even given time I can call them and leave it all on the table and they’ll still be my friend in the end.

Those are the kind of people you need to have in your life. People who stretch you and make you a better person. Who believe in who you are without question. The comings and goings of our friendship remain strong through the tests of life. Don’t question when special people come into your life. Don’t try and figure out why or how could it be possible. Remember God brings people into your life to teach you something.

I also realize that there are some not very good people who come into our lives and we let them in ignoring the voice in our heart and head (which is God) because we think we know the plan. WE don’t! Listen to your heart and get still enough to hear God – you’ll know who those people are you need to have close to you and the one’s you need to send on their way. Keep people around you keep you accountable. People who come along side of you and compliment who you are and make you a better person.

God can work so many great things in your life if you just give Him the reigns and stop trying to figure out what He is doing.

This blog topic is dedicated to my special friends on Twitter and my dearest and to my closest friends in life. Peace and love to you all.

until next time


2 thoughts on “Stop Trying to Figure It Out

  1. i read somewhere: “friends are like stars. you may not always see them, but they are always there”


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