Category: grief journey

Epictetus taught that some things are in our power and some things are not. Examples of some things that are in our power are:

Opinion
Movement toward a thing
Desire
Aversion (turning from a thing)
in a word – whatever are our own acts

Things that are not in our power:

body
property
reputation
offices (magisterial power)
in a word – whatever are not our own acts

With this in mind, consider this…

If you then desire (aim at) such great things, remember that you must not (attempt to) lay hold of them with a small effort; but you must leave alone some things entirely, and postpone others for the present. But if you wish for these things also (such great things), and the power (office) and wealth, perhaps you will not gain even these very things. – exerpted from The Encheiridion: The Manual for Living 2005

What to take from this…..

Focus on one thing and give it everything you can. Otherwise if you try and spread yourself too thin attempting to attain it all, you’ll probably end up with nothing.

What a wake up call! Esp. for me.

until later

Mercedes

Today’s Parade Magazine in the Sunday Paper

“If you had one day to spend with someone who’s gone…Who would it be? What would you do? by Mitch Albom

Well – that got me thinking….

Yesterday, September 16th marked the 18th anniversary of my mom’s passing. She was 48. My age. Sobering thought!

I would want to spend it with her. I lived away from home when she became sick. She was diagnosed with Breast Cancer in April 88 and died on September 16th that year. Just 4 days after her 48th birthday. I was 7 months pregnant with my daughter then. Having to bury your best friend, your mentor while carrying your first born, well, it was a devastating time.

I’d like to spend time with her now, share with her all the things that have happened since then. How we have come so far in the diagnosis and treatment of Breast Cancer. How I have become an advocate for change in women’s healthcare because of her story.

Breast Cancer Awareness – Komen Foundation

 

Brittany

How her grandaughter, she’d only seen on ultrasound has blossomed into the most beautiful young woman I know.  (Picture above)

I’d tell her how proud I am to be her daughter and how much I miss her. Everyday of my existence.

BUT SHE ALREADY KNOWS – I tell her everyday. I know she knows, because God is an Awesome God and she is there with him. Watching and keeping a close eye on us.

Mom – love you!!!!

until later,

Mercedes

Epictetus – A practical Philosopher – What A Concept!

One of my favorite reads – Encheiridion “The Manual for Living” is a collection of teachings from Epictetus and during the coming days / weeks, I will be writing about them here.

Epictetus was not a writer, but a teacher – he emphasized to his followers to live a moral life and to be happy.

“Seek not that the things which happen should happen as you wish; but wish the things which happen to be as they are, and you will have a tranquil flow of life” – –  from VIII The Manual for Living

 

Keyword: Gratitude

 

until next time,

mercedes

 

Today in church the message was on what to do when you are faced with trouble.

And you know, trouble is always around – lurking, waiting to show it’s nasty little head when we least expect it. It’s how we manage it that will enable us to keep trouble at a distance.

When trouble comes….

Live by faith…

God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble. -Psalm 46:1

“You don’t have enough faith,” Jesus told them. “I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, “move from here to there,” and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.” – Matthew 17:20

Live by joy…

“Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again – rejoice! “Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon. “Don’t worry about anything, instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:4-6

Faith will always be tested, but from that endurance will become stronger so you are prepared for anything.

Never let up the pressure to push trouble away – don’t ever give up.

Live by gratitude…

In everything give thanks.

Even in the midst of trouble, because not everything flows from God.

You have to work at this every day.

Remember: if you are not thankful for what you have today, you will not be happy with what you will attain later.

Thanks to Pastor Duane at ResLife for a perfect reminder of how I need to live everyday.

So the next time trouble comes… instead of dwelling on what you don’t have, be grateful for the wonderful things you do have. Life is too short and we have much to do in our preparation to live eternally in Heaven. Are you ready?

Until next time,

M

 

Had a great time in Indy over the holiday. My daughter and I went to visit friends and some family. Had a cookout with friends and family on Saturday and then Sunday just relaxed around the house. Stopped at the Prime Outlets Mall just before the Michigan State Line on Monday. It’s my favorite place to shop for great bargins. It helps to break up the trip too. Tuesday we viewed the fireworks (the picture) at a friends house by Reeds Lake.

Hope everybody had a great week and I’m looking forward to a quiet weekend. — Later, M